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  • Leadership

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    How to Prevent Favoritism in the Workplace

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  • Career Coach

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    4 Organizational Tools to Start Using Immediately

    I don’t know about you, but I don’t think twice about the little things. That’s how I get into trouble, because it’s the little things that make a big impact when they slip through the cracks. Whether it’s a forgotten follow-up call to a customer or a lost password, you can’t afford to let the little things slow you down. Fortunately, when life is moving faster than ever and our primitive human brains can’t catch up, there are some terrific organization applications to help out. LastPass If you’re like me, your poor password management is a disaster waiting to happen. While it’s certainly easier to use the same password all the time, or passwords that are extremely simple to remember, it’s definitely…

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  • Social Media

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    How Ignoring Technology Will Help You Do Better Work

    This summer while you’re on vacation, how often will you check email? Are you even taking a vacation? If you’re anything like me, the thought of a digital-free vacation is almost more stressful than coming to work. Our smartphones have become integral to our daily activities. I need mine to tell time and take photos — I even use it as a flashlight. (I’m obviously not leaving that behind the next time I travel.) But while there’s no question that these devices enhance our personal and professional lives, misuse can actually diminish our productivity and erode relationships. “Be where you are” A previous #TChat Radio show took on the ever-pressing issue of how to manage our digital lives more effectively. The expert guests…

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  • Career

    An FBI Agent Reveals 5 Steps To Gai…

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    I had an opportunity to ask Robin Dreeke a few questions. Robin is in charge of the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s elite Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program and the author of "It’s Not All About Me." Robin combines science and years of work in the field to offer practical tips to build rapport and establish trust. In this brief interview he discusses building relationships, how to approach someone you don’t know and ask for a favor, and the keys to establishing trust. A lot of people are interested in strengthening and furthering relationships. How can people do this? This is the most important aspect of everything we do in life. I’m going to give some light science behind each of my answers but to…

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  • Work Life Balance

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    Want a better work life balance? Exercise.

    Today, I have a lot on my plate  -- work deadlines, kids home from school, my parents coming over for dinner. I just don't have time to workout in the gym, even though I made an exercise schedule and I should be sticking to it. When I'm stressed and feeling overwhelmed, I usually give up exercise to get more done. Now, I'm rethinking my behavior. Researchers have found that exercise empowers people to feel they could better manage their work life balance. People who exercised regularly were more confident they could handle tough tasks. They felt better prepared for the challenges of the interaction of their work and home life and were less likely to be stressed at work, researchers found. "The idea sounds…

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  • Career Inspiration

    Planning for the Life You Want

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    Planning for the Life You Want

    Photo by bibekthecrony By Gary Stokes Continuous effort—not strength or intelligence—is the key to unlocking our potential. - Winston Churchill I haven’t always been as intentional about the life I want to live as I am now. And I haven’t always been as successful at getting what I want. Now I know that simple old-fashioned formal planning about my life makes getting what I want much more of a sure thing. Earlier in my life I probably could not have easily identified what I wanted. For instance when I had been married 17 years the first time, and I had three teen-age children, I was depressed, confused, and adrift with no vision or strategies for my life. I remember toward the end of the marriage trying to…

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  • Career

    CNN Asks Why Male Trial Lawyers Aro…

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    CNN Asks Why Male Trial Lawyers Around America Are Killing Themselves

    CNN has a heartbreaking new story that examines America's growing epidemic of crippling depression and suicide among attorneys — particularly male trial lawyers. State bar associations in Kentucky, North Carolina, Oklahoma, Iowa, and other states have taken action to protect lawyers' mental health in light of their high suicide rates. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) says lawyers are the fourth most suicidal profession after dentists, pharmacists, and physicians. There are a few theories about why lawyers are vulnerable to depression and suicide. For one thing, the law can attract workaholics who are prone to stress. The law — particularly trial law — also involves constant strife and conflict, which can be inherently stressful and depressing. "There are a lot of high stress professions,"…

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  • Career

    10 Bad Habits That Can Harm Your Ca…

    When you get lazy or frustrated, you can develop some bad habits that can harm your career. When I h…

    10 Bad Habits That Can Harm Your Career

    When you get lazy or frustrated, you can develop some bad habits that can harm your career. When I have a pause in my day, I slump. Literally. I lean forward in my chair, rest my chin in my hand, and ponder what I’m reading and writing about. It’s a posture that feels right to me. It requires no thought or effort. It’s the pose I used for my online picture. You might even call it my comfort zone. As it turns out though, my slump is not working for me, and has actually been doing me some harm. I got my wake up call last week when I went to the chiropractor for a pinched nerve in my neck. By slumping…

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  • Career

    5 Tips For Dressing Your Best For I…

    First impressions stick. How you look when you walk through the door to your interview will create a…

    5 Tips For Dressing Your Best For Interviews

    First impressions stick. How you look when you walk through the door to your interview will create a lasting impression. Make it count! Here are five tips for dressing your best for interviews: 1. Add A Touch Of Personality A smart skirt and shirt combo always works well. Add a blazer and you will look like dynamite. Include a splash of color with accessories to give some personality to your outfit and to help make you stand out from the crowd. Personalizing your attire is always a good move as it creates interest, making you someone the interviewer wants to find out more about, but be careful not to overdo it. Browse online on sites like Stylekeepers and find a look that feels…

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  • Career

    8 Ways To Deal With The Monday Blue…

    Feeling the Monday Blues? You are not alone in this. Millions of people feel the same way you do. So…

    8 Ways To Deal With The Monday Blues

    Feeling the Monday Blues? You are not alone in this. Millions of people feel the same way you do. So how do you deal with it? 1. Don’t Think About It The more you think about it, the worse it becomes. The way I deal with the Monday Blues to not think about it. Does it go away? I am not sure. But it sure makes me feel better. Think of it as you can’t scratch. If you think about the itch, it seems to get itchier. So, I just don’t think about the Monday Blues and I do not remind myself of the feeling. I simply ignore it and I feel better immediately. Get that concept out of your mind. The more…

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  • Career Woman

    New Year’s Intentions and Career Pl…

      New year’s day only comes once a year, and it offers us an opportunity to create a beginni…

    New Year’s Intentions and Career Planning

      New year’s day only comes once a year, and it offers us an opportunity to create a beginning like no other day. We like how Dana uses this day to do some intuitive career planning. Whatever you do today, enjoy the beginning. – InPower Editors A few years out of school and into my career I found myself really enjoying New Year’s Day. It was always quiet. Everything was closed. The bustle of the holiday was over and while some nursed their hangovers, I usually found myself with little to do. One year, I found myself writing out some intentions. Even early on I’d given up on “resolutions,” knowing that if I didn’t want something to the point of planning on…

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  • Career

    Do You Have a Networking Bucket Lis…

    Recently I have met many interesting people. Among them, I spoke with an MBA intern, a branding guru…

    Do You Have a Networking Bucket List?

    Recently I have met many interesting people. Among them, I spoke with an MBA intern, a branding guru, human resources enthusiast, a leadership author and someone in the social media/website industry. Their backgrounds and talents varied widely. This is what made my discussions so interesting and exciting. I learned something from each of them. The point of this post is to help you understand that "networking" (I hate this word), isn't just something you do to find a job or secure new business. It is something you do to develop yourself. Several months ago I was asked to make a list of three people I would like to get to know better; people I admired or respected. Geography was not a restriction. I…

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  • Work Life Balance

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    I Wish I’d Spent More Time In The Office…

    Chances are you won’t be whispering this on your deathbed. You only have one shot, so make it count. One of the top regrets of the dying is that they worked too hard. Sam Walton, founder of Walmart, uttered ‘I blew … Continue reading → The post I Wish I’d Spent More Time In The Office… appeared first on Officevibe.

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  • Social Media

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  • Career Inspiration

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6 Things to do in your 20s to make your 30s good

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Why do people spend so much time telling you a list of books to read in your twenties or a list of places to go in your twenties?  Those are actually ways only to escape your twenties. Escaping by doing that stuff just sets you up for a disaster in your thirties.

Here are things to do in your twenties to make your thirties fun.

1.  Build a career that enables you to work from home.
The best way to get control of your life is working from home, because once you’re home, then things start to shift in favor of you instead of your company.

But there are relatively few types of jobs that translate to a career from home.  Survey the types of careers that are typical of at‑home workers and set yourself up for one of them.

Almost every person who is working from home either works very hard in their twenties to build their own business or they worked hard in their twenties to specialize so that it was too costly for the company to replace them. So when they ask, it is easier to let them work from home.

2.  Women, freeze your embryos.
I’m actually a fan of approaching your biological clock head-on instead of procrastinating by freezing your eggs. That seems like you’re just putting off the inevitable realities of having a family.  Nothing changes when the eggs are frozen except that you build a bigger career that you must scale back when you do have kids.

But sometimes really bad things happen to us, like your whole family burns up in a fire and you have to go to six years of therapy, and you can’t start dating until you’re thirty-one. So for cases like this, or less extreme, it’s good to just have your embryos saved.

Why doesn’t everybody just save embryos? It’s kind of like cord blood. It’s what rich people do to avoid calamitous medical situations.

3.  Build muscle.
You already know that good-looking people get the best jobs and a wider selection of partners.

What you didn’t know is that you can kind of buy yourself some time if you’ve been lifting weights really hard-core the whole time in your twenties. Muscle just sort of lingers on so you can do mostly lame workouts in your thirties if you lifted weights in your twenties. This plan allows you a lot more flexibility. It allows you to have years when you don’t work out because you’re trying to rearrange your life, and it makes all transitions easier to know that your body isn’t falling apart when you’re doing them.

4. Go visit your siblings. 
It’s really not that fun to stay in touch with your siblings in your twenties because everybody uses that time to separate from their parents and build their own identity. And this is the time when people are in the most denial that they are like their parents and will marry someone like their parents. So a way to stay in denial as long as possible is to avoid siblings, because siblings can always tell when you’re acting like your parents.

The problem is that a fascinating study from Harvard reveals that the only indicator of who will be happy and who won’t later in life is who remains close to their siblings. So you might think that what’s really going to make you happy is to be hot enough to get into exclusive clubs, but that doesn’t last. Your siblings are what lasts. So go visit them when you have time off.

5.  Don’t stress about relocation.
It’s overwhelming to think you’re twenty-two and you can live anywhere. Unfortunately, it’s not actually true. It’s true that you can live anywhere, but it’s not true that you’re going to want to live just anywhere.

After you have kids you’re going to want to live where your family is because this is what happens: Nobody really cares about your kids. In fact, nobody even likes other people’s kids. They like their own kids. The exception to this is family. Family loves other family.

We love our nieces and nephews and grandkids similarly to our own kids, so you’re going to want to be near family. You’re going to relocate to family when you realize none of your friends actually care about your kids. You’ll know because they’re not inviting you for holidays anymore—they’re going to see family on holidays because they want someone to dote on their kids.

6. Your twenties are not practice time. It’s your life.
So don’t worry about relocation. It’s playing in the world of false choices. Meg Jay has a great Ted Talk about how people in their twenties spend too much time making dead-end decisions that they pretend don’t count. Instead, focus on using a systematic way to try new jobs and new relationships to figure where you fit. And don’t worry that things don’t feel right in your twenties because everything happens so fast. You know how people always say to you, “Oh, my gosh, you’ve grown up so fast.” Well, time speeds up as you get older, and you’re not going to believe how fast your twenties are over.

So much of what people in their 20s focus on is how they look to the world right now. It’s why Facebook rules the day, and street photographer James Maher named his photo (up top) The Pose of a Generation. But all that Facebook-induced, short-term thinking leads to depression. Take your life seriously enough to be able to share difficulties and failures.

And remember that the best decisions you can make are ones that will last into your thirties. That way, you know you are doing things in your twenties that will matter.

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