4 Steps to Creating the Life You Want and Deserve
You want the perfect life. You want to jump through those hoops, get that glory and actually be happy with the greatest of ease. Whether you want to travel the world, launch your own business, get out of your dead-end job or be a dog walker, pursuing your passion is something I know you want.
So, what are you doing to get there?
Truth is, many of us want all these things but don’t do much to get started. Essentially, we’re all stuck behind the wheel of our own lives. Or worse off, you may be sitting in the backseat and letting someone else navigate.
I’m here to tell you that it is possible to live a remarkable, story-worthy life you can tell tales about for years to come. It’s possible to stick it to those nay-sayers and get your life started. It’s possible to have what you want.
But, it’s up to YOU to make it happen.
Let’s look at some ways to get started:
1. Stop wondering what you want and figure it out right now
You may not even know what you want out of your life. Think about it: When is the last time you sat down and did some heavy soul-searching to figure out what you want? Been awhile, eh?
That soul-searching is the one-way ticket to understanding what you want out of your life—so get to it, immediately. Understanding what you really want will help to make you happier and more fulfilled… and who wouldn’t want that?
Tip: Call up your best friend and ask them to help you articulate what you really want. Then write up your vision for an ideal life. Leave nothing out.
2. Create bold, out-of-your-comfort-zone goals
What’s the point of being on this journey if you’re not going to be bold?
Now, I’m not saying you have to do anything irresponsible or dangerous. I’m saying you should be daring. You should be ambitious. You should feel scared. Your goals should feel audacious, and you should know that you achieved more out of life. This starts with creating goals for yourself that may be out of your comfort zone.
Tip: Start small. If your goal is to be the President, you don’t throw yourself into a political campaign, do you? You outline how you’re going to get yourself to that level and take the steps necessary to get there. Same goes for your goal. Pick one thing you can do today and do it. Then choose the next one and keep going.
3. Muster up some confidence to drive you to take action
Confidence is a key element to ﬂipping your system. You’ll find that when you muster the confidence to move ahead with your bold goals, you’ll let go of your fears and your vulnerabilities. Plus, when you start having more conviction in yourself, you’ll discover strategies to ﬁll in any conﬁdence gaps that have kept you in the passenger seat of your own life.
Tip: If you’re having confidence problems, find out why. Is it because your goals are bold and you’re scared? Is it because you don’t know where to start? Perhaps you just need someone to help push you in the right direction. Whatever the reason, raising your awareness is half the battle. Taking action to correct it is the other half.
4. Take charge and do the work
No one is going to do the work for you. Sad, but true.
When you’re making major life transformations, getting up and running is key. Any good design takes more than a couple practice rounds—and so does creating the big, exciting, amazing life you deserve. In the end, you are responsible for ﬁnding and creating your own happiness in this life. Don’t lose that momentum! Take charge, get out, be your own driver and move forth with the confidence of knowing you can be great.
Tip: If you get this far and drop down, you’re screwed. Find some tenacity! Don’t procrastinate, because if you do, you’re in the same position as you were when you started this journey. And, quite clearly, that’s not where you wanted to be.
You deserve an extraordinary life. I know that, you know that, the world knows that. You just have to take the right steps in order to get there. So keep the above in mind when you begin your journey. Figure out what you want, set specific goals, muster up some confidence and take charge of your life. You got this! Now get to work!
What other steps should you take when pursuing a life you deserve?
Editor’s Tip: The people we read about, Bill Gates, Michael Dell, etc., found something they loved and were interested in. They worked hard at it and figured out how to make money at it. If you want a career doing something you love, you will have to figure out how to make money at it in addition to mastering it. And you need to learn how to sell yourself and your ideas/products.
You will need to save money or raise some. All ideas need money. You may have to live frugally to get there, just like most of the immigrants who went to America to make their fortune and actually made one.
Many of the rich people I have personally met didn’t set out to do what they were doing. They fell into it. I am not talking about artists who spent a lifetime mastering their craft. I am talking about business people, which is pretty much everyone who isn’t an artist. But they fell into it because they were interested in it or at least took an interest once they found it.
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Jennie Mustafa-Julock (Coach Jennie) is a life coach who specializes in helping people crank up the volume on their goals, ambitions and missions, transforming them into self-actualized, adventurous, audacious individuals. Check her out on Facebook, Twitter and through her book, Audacity Rules.
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